Sugar and Spice

My Little Princess

Can I get a shot of double standards with a side of hypocrisy?
Because that’s all that’s served when it comes to gay adoption…

According to UNICEF (United Nations Children Fund) there are 210 Million orphans worldwide. Let me repeat myself: 210 MILLION! That’s 3 times the population of Canada!!!

And yet Gays and Lesbians are only allowed to adopt kids in 14 countries worldwide, leaving the other 181 off the table. Sadly, most orphans in the world do not even reside in these 14 countries that do allow joint same-sex adoption. In our own nation, only 20 of the 50 States allow Gay and Lesbian adoption (and you can bet your bottom dollar Sarah Palin and George Bush’s hometowns aren’t one of them).

So the question arises, other than the religious crap written over a thousand years ago by God knows who, what true rationale is there for prohibiting Gays and Lesbians from adopting?

1. Same sex relationships are not stable and thus cannot provide a stable environment for children like heterosexual parents can, something essential for healthy mental and physical development.

Right, because the 40% divorce rate amongst heterosexuals (US Census Bureau) proves that they are capable of providing much more stable environments. How about you take a gander at how damaging a divorce can be to a child, and the correlation between drug abuse/crime and being raised in a torn family.

2. Having two gay parents will hurt the child’s future and social life.

The American Psychological Association, in a recent report reviewing the research, observed that “not a single study has found children of gay or lesbian parents to be disadvantaged in any significant respect relative to children of heterosexual parents, there is no evidence to suggest that the children of lesbian and gay parents are less intelligent, suffer from more problems, are less popular, or have lower self-esteem than children of heterosexual parents.”

3. Lesbians and Gays are more likely to molest children.

I feel incredibly sorry for whoever makes that statement, and I think it’d be best for them to be dispatched to Saudi Arabia or the Taliban where they would feel more at home.

There is absolutely no correlation between homosexuality and pedophilia. Homosexuality is the attraction of an adult’s attraction to another adult of the same sex, whereas pedophilia is the attraction of an adult to a young child. In the 269 molestation cases studied, 98% of the pedophiles were heterosexuals, 74% of which were in a relationship with the child’s mother or were a family member of the child.

4. Having gay parents will result in turning the adopted children gay.

First of all, even if the children did come out gay, outside the realm of religion there is nothing wrong with that.

Fortunately for the conservatives of the world, there is no study that has proven that adopted children with gay parents turn out gay themselves. For God’s sake, just think of how different you and your parents are. Do you really believe that it was your Mom or Dad that taught you who you should be attracted to?

While there are 210 Million orphans around the world, mostly living in horrible conditions, undernourished, with little or no healthcare, and most important lacking in love, governments around the world are stubborn in changing their policies towards adoption and in most cases would rather see the child wither away in an orphanage than be given love by two men or two women.

While I personally am far from adopting a child of my own, I know that I will always strive to not only fight for my rights as a gay man, but also for those innocent children who have done nothing wrong other than to be born to irresponsible parents and live under a backwards conservative regime that has opened very few doors for them.

I wonder what little sugar and spice is awaiting for me to adopt her in the future, may she be as beautiful as my little cousin who I helped raise as my own.


About thepersiancloset

Hey there! I'm a gay Iranian-American raised in the US, studying Dentistry and hoping to open up my own practice some day. Being brought up in a Persian household proved (and proves!) to be difficult when my very liberal gay self clashes with the more conservative members of the household. Follow me on a week to week journey of growing up Gay in the Persian closet!
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